Thursday, July 14, 2011


I have been at the beach for the last week. A few days before that I was in the mountains. You see, my man and I needed to get away. The mountains called, his bagpipes played, the libations flowed. Then we were led to heed the siren call of the water. There's nothing like getting away from the daily routines of life to set you right with the world again. To actually shut out the things you choose to shut out of your life is a necessity sometimes. But what if you can't because of time constraints and finances? I know about this. Last year I didn't get to go anywhere. In years prior, in my former unhappy life, I got to take vacations every summer with my family. While they were always welcome and usually (temporarily) wonderful, they lacked a real sense of respite.....that was due to the unhappy marriage part, and that's already been hashed out here, you can read about it if you like by going back to the older posts before January 2011, but since January this blog has been about new life and new adventures and living at your highest vibration. But when the money that bought the vacations was suddenly gone from my life last summer, I had to figure out a way to satisfy the "gotta-get-away-itch". And here's what I did:

I camped in the back yard with my little girl at my side. We slept under the stars, and made S'mores. A lot. We learned the flowers, we stayed together, and we went slow. I taught my little one to meditate....yes, it's possible to teach a six year old to sit still long enough in order to tell the Universe what her young concerns are, and then to send a blessing to the people in her life. We looked for and found every free outdoor event and nature trail our area offered. We got suntanned and our legs got strong. We had friends that invited us often to come over and sit by their fire pit. We listened endlessly to the comforting sounds of crickets in the night. They would tell us we were going to be alright. The summer nights cradled my hopes and I cradled my little girl. We picked berries at a farm that somehow just knew the weary looking mother and her little girl probably needed the comfort and safety of their family farm, and they gave us extra berries, more then we could hold in the plastic grocery bags we they gave a flat....for free. I learned how to make ice cream last summer. Custard based ice cream, and if you haven't had a custard based blackberry ice cream, well, you haven't had ice cream! Just sayin'. We were allowed access to a neighborhood pool, we spent endless hours in the water. We met other like-minded families that seemed to take a liking to us, and our friend base just grew and grew. As we stretched ourselves, as I allowed myself to reach out to others, a community of caring people came into our lives. We found the respite and the relaxation we so desperately needed last summer.

If money holds you back from your dream vacation, then reframe what vacation means. I'm an armchair traveler now. I've been to Europe several times, China once, and to my beloved Ireland four times. But these days I collect brochures and travel guides from the destinations I would love to visit. I am signaling the Universe that I am ready to open myself to what is possible. I don't need to know how it will happen, or when it will happen. All I know is that it will happen. Be creative with what you have. Look at your part of the world and plan a day trip somewhere. Stay near home, it doesn't have to be far, and it can be done inexpensively. I promise once you actually open yourself to the adventure that's waiting as near as your back yard, you will be signaling the Universe that you are ready for what comes next. That's just how it works. Embrace what you have, reinterpret your sense of "want", and then pay attention. Opportunities will arise, and you will find the relaxation and the respite....and the adjusted seek. Last summer I found there was nothing like gliding silently in a kayak along the reeds and marshes of a waterway, and during last summer's healing time I was taken to a place of deep joy when I met some people that owned kayaks along a stretch of the Kentucky River. Through a series of "coincidences" (which began at that berry farm) I was able to take their kayaks out for a weekend.....with all the gear included, and with an instructor/Sierra Club guide to boot! True respite and a grateful nod to a Universe that took care of this woman's need for "getting away", was the order of the day last summer.

To get away....first go within. There is a deep well of resources available to you, both seen and unseen. They're free. There are no lines with screaming children to endure. There is no gas to be pumped first and then paid for from deep within your pocket. There is only what is possible. And if you can dream it, and see yourself doing it, you will find ways to experience your heart's desire. Respite will be made available to you in the most unexpected of ways. It's such a surprise when it does comes your way......just like Summer herself, when she comes laughing and bounding over the fields in June, you will be filled and delighted by all your senses, and paths will open up to you. And that's the best respite from the world I know be delighted with the simple pleasures of this life.

Wishing you a haven, an adventure waiting around the corner, and deep peace that surpasses our current understanding.

Until next time.....blessings upon you heart


Friday, July 1, 2011


Sometimes everything just works together for good. You know it when it's happening. You feel it all going your way. You're on a roll, completely expectant and not the least bit surprised when everything just works out as you planned. Those are the easy times, those are the times that we love to experience. But what about the days that start out, well, not so great? You know just what I mean, the days that begin on the wrong foot, the days that seem to take on a life of their own.....well, just flow with it. Seriously, one of the best things that can be done is to just relax and go with flow. A little trite sounding? Maybe, but surrendering to the moment holds tremendous insights and surprising outcomes. So, that day that seems to have a mind of it's own? Let it lead you to where it wants to take you. Can you trust that maybe things are on track? That maybe, just because it doesn't fit our agenda for the day, that maybe, just maybe there is a force at work that does know what you need? You never know when you are entertaining angels. If you are consistently putting your intention out there, if you have asked for guidance, or direction, and things seem to be going a different route.....then just go with it! There is great peace in letting go. There is great strength in staying open to the possibilities, and maybe just around the corner there is a whole new world waiting to open up for you. We can never really know where the twists and turns lead. I am living proof of this. Again and again I am astounded, and profoundly grateful, for the fact that I cannot foresee or predict my life. I couldn't possibly have imagined the good that has come my way, and on certain days, days when I thought everything had gone to hell in a hand basket, I found those days to be the most rewarding....if I stayed alert enough to really get myself out of the way.

There is a bigger plan at work in our lives. I know this as sure as I am sitting here typing as fast as my little brain can spew out my thoughts. Things that may seem like "bad luck" could very well be saving you from something far worse. I have found that in hindsight, when some time has gone by and we have loosened the hold we have on "outcome", we can see with crystal clarity that things really did work out for the best. A day in my life for instance, such as today, can start out rather trying.....(read that as being aggravated...a phone call, an email, something that threatened to destroy my peace).....and even as it spiraled out of my control, it all turned around by day's end. Inevitably there is person you meet, a "chance" encounter with someone, an offhand remark, a nagging thought that won't give you any peace until you acknowledge it, that can change the course of things in an instant. This happens all the time.

My life changed for the better today in series of fluke events, none of which upon waking this morning could I have even remotely predicted. My day was to go a certain way, it was planned, but everything else took over instead. What did I do? I went with it. I said, "Okay, let's see where this leads". And it lead me to a new job. And in the most perfect field I could have chosen. EVERYTHING clicked. The people involved, the timing, the right people being present at exactly the right time. EVERYTHING. I have been humbled once again. Now, let's see where this leads me. Let's see where this new job takes me.....surely there will be growth, and comfort zones will bust open (oh, those are the good times, when comfort zones are busted wide open). Will I be able to give up just a little bit more of my need to plan, to worry, to project outcomes? Yes. More and more I am learning that I can trust and relax....I'm going to roll with this. The high point of the day was when the person who hired me on the spot looked into my eyes and said, "We've been waiting for you". I nearly lost it right then and there. She saw in me what I was capable of. She saw in me the right qualities and qualifications that will bless us on both sides. BAM! Synchronicity. Love that.....

And it all happened today because everything, and I mean everything, got off to a "wrong" start! Or so I thought....

When life throws you a curve ball, don't panic. Maybe simply ask, "Where is this going to lead me"?....then trust you will be lead. And blessed. Giving up the personal timetable we sometimes have about when things "should" happen can be one of the most freeing things we can practice. You never know what guardians are indeed guarding you, guiding you, smiling upon you! Just as there is a power and a force that causes seasons to change, flowers to bloom, and embryos to become children, there is a force of nature at work in your life, and in due season. It's in a time and manner that nature and wildlife understand all too well, like when the sky is blue and the trees stand tall, then a storm blows in, they just bend and go with it. They ride it out to find when all has settled down, the landscape has been swept clean once again. Tap into that space.....and watch what happens. Flow.... love that.

Until next time....blessings upon your heart